Why the need for ROARS
On a daily basis, most of us are directed by the existential need to go on with life and be productive. This is motivating and gives us direction and purpose. The shadow side is that we can take on too much and get caught up in dynamics that cause stress in our bodies, and this gives rise to emotional reactions. These emotional reactions give birth to thought reactions, and if unattended to, can loop back into our bodies and induce more tension, and therefore, cause stress. Some key points from physics:
- Stress is force over area
- Deformation is a change of shape
- Elasticity is a measure of the deformation of an object when a force is applied
So you will have worked out that we want to increase our elasticity in order to reduce stress, with the purpose of avoiding deformation that we do not choose. How do we do this?
We need to break the ‘cognition-body tension-emotion reaction’ loop at some point in the cycle. Cognitive psychologists would say ‘change thinking to change behaviour’, but I would suggest that this has only a partial impact as it doesn’t reach the deeper layers of self. From my own practice, which affects the way I approach the world, I would suggest that attending to the body self firstly is the way to access the deeper layers of the brian and the self.
BELOW: is my method of structuring a needs-led life. This begins in the moment, by attending to the needs of the body every hour. For example, moving, breathing, and drinking water. Your needs may be similar or may differ, for example, you may need a connection with people or solitude from others. Human needs differ over time and this is a normal and natural cycle. Awareness is our friend on this journey. See my blog on self-awareness.
As you will glean, from the structure of the 6 ROARS, over time, we can build a scaffolding from the present moment to the future, thereby stepping forward in our lives in both a ‘needs-led’, and a ‘choice-led’ way.
BELOW: the 6 ROARS structure to help you take your needs from here-and-now to the future. The short video provides examples of how to use ROARS in your life: Check it out!